Friday, December 02, 2011

Guest Post: Expectations


There are so many things people expect from other people. There are things that are expected out of family, friends and significant others. We expect certain things to be done for us, kind words to be said when we most need it and when people fail to do the things we expect out of them, we get mad and disappointed.

You know what's worst? When we expect a person do to something or say something yet we don't give hints to what we want them to do or say (or don't want them to do). People aren't mind readers after all, what kind of result do you think you're going to get? Not good ones, I assure you. So please stop frowning and moaning over what that or this person did to you, if you haven't even told them that those things really do hurt you.

If we stopped expecting things from people, we'd stop hurting so much. That gut wrenching feeling wouldn't hurt as much. If we didn't put high expectations to everything a person does, it wouldn't be a major disappointment when that person is no longer able to "please our expectations".

Well either way, William Shakespeare said it best: "Expectation is the root of all heartache."

It no longer hurts that badly if a friend or a significant other (not that I ever had a significant other - but this post isn't about my nonexistent love life) does something that I wouldn't approve of or disappoint me, because I no longer expect things out of them.

One could argue that that's not something good; we should always expect the best out of people. But the thing is, I don't expect the worst out people either. I'm...well I'm not sure what I am but the thing is, when we put our own expectations of others on the shelf, life is going to be so much better.

I'm just saying. If you stop always expecting things out of people, it wouldn't feel like life is always fucking you over with all these disappointments.

- Mona


"When one's expectations are reduced to zero, one really appreciates everything one does have." - Stephen Hawking 

“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.” - Alexander Pope 

About the Blogger:

I'm Mona. Sixteen-years-old but it ain't sweet *snap* ;) I live in Norway and I'm willingly unemployed boyaaah! nah, I'm lying. Nobody wants to hire me. The way to my heart is through my stomach, I love food. And gingers and the Irish accent. I actually don't know what else there is to say so....*awkward pause* bye!

Blog: Conceal Your Thoughts
Twitter: @Munsay


  1. expect the worse. cause if it turns out to be great, you'll be the happiest person in the world

  2. I try to count on a few trustworthy people, and don't expect anything else from anyone else.

  3. Well I don't expect a lot and I still feel life is fucking me over. Maybe I do just expect more than I think I do, but either way yes you should tell people what they've done wrong, you can't expect them to magically know.

  4. nakakarelate naman me ^^ binabasa ko to habang nakikinig sa Perfect Glee...drama much haha.

  5. right! 'expectation is the root of all heartache'

    but what hurts the most is when you already used to something and you expect it to happen, but sadly it didn't.. diba?

  6. thanks superleah for flying over my site (though am not sure if my jolly comment is appropriate to ur blog entry for now hehe)!! see u around:)

  7. Great post Mona!

    Having expectations can cause a lot of hurt :(

  8. what's hard in expecting is that the more you expect.... the more it's hard to forget if it did not happen.

    But then, Expecting something or someone can cause a gravitational pull and you will definetely attact things... ergo it could happen.

    Wala longs.... :D

  9. I can relate to this post,kaya sometimes hindi na lang ako nag seset ng expectations to lessen the hurt.... :-)

  10. We should not expect too much from a person. However, at times, we could not avoid it.

  11. The higher we build our expectations, the harder they fall. So rather than expecting, we should just hope.

    Lovely post!


  12. Your blog is absolutely inspiring! congrats