How are you, lovely people? Today, I'll be having my 3rd guest blogger. Yay me! This really is a new experience for me. At first, I thought that it would just be pure hard work.. but then, I began to realize that it is kinda fun, too. Teehee! Well, first of all.. it is a great feeling to have other bloggers share their inputs here in my blog. It is like inviting a friend, have them come over for a cup of tea. Also, it is a very fulfilling feeling that I don't have to knock on blog doors and ask the authors if they wanna do a guest post. Because most of my blogger friends are actually very much willing to do guest posts. I consider that a compliment. Thank you.
This post is about the love worth fighting for. In a relationship, when can one say "Enough is enough?". When is the right time to give up and let go? How do you know when you've reached your limit? Are there real-life Prince Charmings or do they just exist in fairytale stories? My guest blogger is Emmaleigh.. and here's what she has to say.
In love, when can you say enough is enough?
In love, I don't think there's an "enough" option. We don't set a rule that "if my partner cheats on me, that's it" etc etc. Because, in love, we do everything to make it work. Magic dies when your soul, heart & brain are tired of forgiving the same crap you have to go through for FOREVER. In movies, in reality, how many of us actually gave up that easy when we found out our partner is cheating? How many of us left our abusive partners before he made it a daily habit to throw you on the wall? How many of us just gave up when our partner just want out? ALMOST NONE, right?
I thought, this is gonna be an easy question. I was wrong. Memories flooded not just my brain, but, also, left a pang of hurt in my heart. I have my own share of defeating the impossibilities. So, I've been asking myself, "when can I say enough is enough?" And I've finally came to a conclusion that Enough is a word, just like Love, Happiness, Sadness.. simple yet with different ways to live it.
For some people, giving up is NOT an option. We fight. Doesn't matter how it'll hurt us, we have to put up a fight for a love/person we believe is ours, FOREVER. We hang in there believing that it will be worth it in the end. FOREVER. I guess, that's how STUPIDITY was born. WE. JUST. DON'T. GIVE. UP. We plan our future. How many kids you and your partner will have. Where you guys will live blah blah. And that's why, when the spark dies, we hang on to FOREVER. We remind the other person about the future plans. Hoping, the future will make the other person stay.
And then, there are some people who's not made for martyrdom. And trust me, it's not a bad thing, either. Some people's middle fingers are just tougher and harder than some of us. Once or twice they've been wronged, though I'm sure it hurt them, IT WILL BE OVER.
It's not wrong to fight as long as YOU know deep inside, all the tears will be worth it and the other person is fighting, too. And remember, It's not cowardice if you choose to give up. It just meant, that you know, that there is someone out there worth planning FOREVER with. Whatever your decision in life and love be, I wish everyone the best. I know, it's hard to appreciate a rainbow after a downpour. One day, you will be healed and accept what fate has in store for you ;)
I'd end this post with some pieces of advice. To all who are in cloud nine, cherish every moment. AND DON'T DO ANYTHING FOOLISH. And to those who aren't, well, I'm sure that Prince Charmings DO exist in real life. f you don't have someone courageous at the moment to go against all odds with you, don't worry, it will come. I know how that last statement sounded so cliche. I just know, every girl will have their own prince one day.The person who will make the wait worth it. Right now, maybe, you are single, because you still need time to heal. You are single, because that douchebag who hurt you is not worth it after all. To whoever is mending their broken heart, cry, move on and smile. You will be victorious some day.
- ♥ Em
In conclusion. Every relationship goes through hard times. Painful times. But not every bump on the road is reason to give the relationship up. Though, there will come a time when you would know that you've had enough, that it's time to let go and move on alone.
There are many factors involved and the decision to end it, is entirely up to you. If you feel that there is this unexplainable gap in your relationship that is causing irreparable damage, then it's time to consider ending it. Feeling left out, unhappy and unappreciated is never worth any relationship. If you're the only one trying to fix the situation, constantly giving and getting nothing in return, it's time to end it. Relationships should go both ways. Cheating and lying are deal-breakers. If someone cheats on you, there are possiblities that it will happen again. If not, there will be trust issues to overcome. A good relationship is based on TRUST. Breach of trust can give hurtful feelings and even hostility. If it gets to the point that you are still holding on to the relationship because you don't want to be alone, it truly is time to let go. Give up trying to fix what cannot be fixed.
Each one of us has a different boiling point, so to speak. As my guest blogger had said, "It's not wrong to fight as long as YOU know deep inside, all the tears will be worth it."Endure the pain, as long as you know the person is worth it. If he/ she isn't, then let go. "It's not cowardice if you choose to give up."
Each one of us deserves to be treated with respect. Deserves to be happy. Deserves to be loved. A relationship could give us all of these. But when a relationship gives you feelings other than those you rightfully deserve, then it's time to pull the plug. That is the only way you can have your own "happily ever after".
No on can make you feel inferior without your consent. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die, and the choices that we make are ultimately our responsibility. - Eleanor Roosevelt
About the blogger:
"I am awkward and describing myself is not my strongest point. And I am not gonna waste your time by being non-sense. You can call me, Em. Yep, short and simple just like that. I am awkward, but not anti-social. I do blog to express, not to impress. I am not gonna be humble, but I have a talent in singing and I suck big time in dancing. I curse a lot. And if you are easily offended by profanities, then, you're not gonna like me. I love my family. I miss Philippines. I am a student and I have a part-time job. Yep, my so-called life is overrated." - Em
You could follow Em on Twitter. Username: @iEm_ . Do visit her blog Emmaleigh and read her great posts.