Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Guest Post: Love as Catastrophe


So how are you today, lovely people? As for me, I'm being a bum today.

It's been raining for days now. Mister Sun would show his face once in a while, for like 30 minutes or so. Then the sky would go back to being gloomy. I love the rain, but it kinda sucks when it rains everyday. I can't do my laundry, I can't do some gardening, I can't go out to get a dose of vitamin D. I'm actually feeling a bit feverish right now.

Oh, well. Enough of that.

I've got another guest post from a great blogger. Today's post is about love. What is TRUE love, anyway? How can we say we are truly inlove? How do you describe it? Some say that love is a complex and undefinable emotion. But there are some who say that love is the most simple feeling to describe. Some say that love is evil and paniful, while there are others who believe that to be inlove is the most incredible feeling ever.

"Love is a product of its own catastrophe." What do you think? My guest blogger is Rah. and here's what he has to say.

"Love is what makes sex more than masturbation." - Slavoj Zizek

"The husband and wife are obliged to live together, observe mutual love, respect and fidelity, and render mutual help and support."- (Article 68 of the Family Code)
It's a pity that our laws speak of love as if it were some kind of obligation when in reality, it should have no business meddling in the "matters of the heart." A breach of promise of love is not even a demandable wrong. Sue your husband because he no longer loves you and your case would most probably be dismissed in court. If I had my way, I would have put the law this way:

"Spouses are not obliged to love each other." 
I like how Louis de Bernières describes love: 
"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body..." 
Love unconditionally and realize that such love can be lost. It is through this "mild disenchantment" that we find the right reasons to love. They say, "Love is when the happiness of the other person is essential to ours." But we also should not forget that love is a product of its own catastrophe. Love is what we assume, what we accept, and what we take to the very end. 
Bernières was right, any fool can be in love. But true love is what is left when "being in love" has burned away, which is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Cheerio! -Rah

My guest blogger, RAH. ☺

About the blogger :D

The blogger is photography hobbyist, frustrated rock icon, very interested in art, music, culture, travel, and living. He's just very, very curious. When he was in grade five (5) his mother taught him how to play the guitar. When he finished college, his father sent him to study law. He advocates kindness, tolerance, and understanding; and believed Lao-tzu when he said, "That there is no calamity greater than lavish desires. There is no greater guilt than discontentment. And there is no greater disaster than greed."

My guest blogger is Rah. Do visit his blog The Daily Panda and read his great posts.


  1. Love is what makes sex more than masturbation

    ..wise words

  2. bcoz i'm married ng ilang years na paliwanag ko sa love, hnd mawawala yan.. ok! sa umpisa ng bf/gf relationship o marraige, mainit sa umpisa, pero habang tumatagal nag-iiba ang level opkors pero nanjan pa rin ung love.. like gusto mong e-save ang rel dahil sa pamilya love n din un na matatawag, ni re-respect mo partner mo love na din un, faihtfull ka sa partner mo love na din un, napapasaya ka ng partner mo love na din un.. iba iba ang level ng love..

    kong hnd mo na iisipin ang family, mawawala ang respect, hnd ka magiging faithfull, hnd ka na masaya kahit anong gawin mo..that's the time na masasabi mong wala ng love..

    hello Rah nice to meet you!!

  3. for me, love is the greatest gift from god, without it, the world will end

  4. what i love so much about the season, is that i can start wearing my collection of boots again without earning lots of ogling stares! hehe (;

    spouses are not obliged to love each other. oh wow. then the union doesn't make much sense. why marry or live together in the first place? the word 'obliged' was used.. smart guy. yeah i might as well agree but somehow when you love someone, you feel entitled to have your feelings reciprocated, right?

    hmm, in my opinion, unconditional love is just not possible. there are always conditions.

    oh heck why am i even talking about love? i'm not even sure what it means anymore. maybe there is no definite definition. when it's there, then it's there.. though, when lost, it becomes a catastrophe.

    the aftermath of love lost is despair and pain and longing for the person, and that's how you realize that you've really feel deeply in love with that person.

    love is what makes sex more than masturbation. wth. im stumped. hehe

  5. ang love masasabi mong nagmamahal ka kung sa likod ng lahat ng kabadtripan sa buhay nyong magsing irog, e nakukuha mo paring makagawa ng mahahalaga at komplikadong desisyon para sa kanya. yun bang kahit maghiwalay kayo, siya pa rin ang mahal mo kahit na bubukaka na pepe ni angelina jolie sa tapat mo. nawala na yung laptop mo, naibenta na nya ang ipod touch mo, naisanla na nya yung bracelet na regalo nya nung 1st anniv nyo e nananatili ka pa ring nakangiti at nagmamahal.. pagmamahal parin iyon na binabad at binuro sa katangahan.. yun bang nakita mo na lahat ng magaganda at gwapo at matalino at lahat-lahat nang ideal men at women sa mundo pero babalik at babalik ka pa rin dun sa di mo maipagpalit na imperpektong taong iyon. yun ang pagibig.. ganun ang tunay na pagmamahal.. i love you!

  6. Rah got it perfectly on the volcano quote. first, you feel love as a great outburst, then it goes to a low. if it is really love, what happens after will be a continuation of the eruption: silent, but the heat is still present deep inside.

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  8. love is immeasurable hahha...simple as that para sa akin haayyy in love ka no? hiihihi

  9. Well ang love lang talaga ang rason kung bakit tayo nag eexist sa mundong ito.desisyon yan hindi lang pakiramdam.ang isang halimbawa ng tunay na love ay ang ang pagmamahal meron tayo sa ating ina. Kahit anong mangyari kahit ilang taon man kayong di nagkita sa oras na magtama ang iyong mga mata walang nagbabago sa intensity na nararamdaman niyo sa isat-isa.hindi mo pweding sabihin na nabawasan na ang pagmamahal mo kasi wla kayong communication.

    or nakalimutan mo na kasi sa tagal ng panahon. Opposite kasi ang mararamdaman mas tumidindi ang pananabik mo sa kanya habang tumatagal ang panahon.

  10. ang pagkaka alam ko sa love ay ganito- halimbawa at yung naging labs mo may asawa or commited na sa iba at hindi naman iniiwan ang pamilya or gf nya. hindi mo na itutuloy ang relasyon kc, yun ang tamang desisyon. nasaktan ka sa tamang dahilan, dahil masakit iwasan yun,iisipin mong kung nagawa nya sa asawa niya yun, magagawa rin nya yun sa iba.

    love rejoices in the right, it does not rejoice in the wrong-
    kc kung alam natin na mali matatawag pa bang love yun?
    mukhang hindi- ngayon maraming paraan para itama yun, either
    mag split or mag pa annul to give way for the relationship to be legal. yun ang alam
    ko sa salitang "love" it is synonimous to being "right"

    love is not just emotion, it is like logic, the art and science of correct thinking.

  11. Love is what makes sex more than masturbation- this explain well:)

    last summer I said to myself I will love again once I step my feet on the sea and sea the top of the mountain at nagawa ko naman sya nung summer pero hangang ngyn I feel like I'm not ready ...oh love department why are you doing this to me...hahhaa...In love ka noh:)

  12. been in love and lost.

    happy blogging.

  13. Love is what makes sex more than masturbation.


  14. love without lust is pure love...

  15. Love for me is a decision. . You decide to love that person inspite of imperfection. Love is acceptance no matter what dat person has,but it's also a matter of sacrifice a will to chance or a will to let go.
    Agree din ako dun sa comment ni moks.pag nagmahal ka in a wrong place and in a wrong tym willing kang mag endure ng pain kc minahal mo khit hindi dapat. D puro sarap lang, sabi ko nga sacrifice na may kasamang risk..na willing ka din mag let go.

  16. like ko yung quote! true!!! di ko na uulitin kasi bawal mag highlight at copy paste sa bahay mo leah. lols. tamad mode ako e. :p

    Wala pa akong experience sa love kaya di ako ganong relate much sa topic na love. lols. all i know is that love is like a rosary.... full of mystery :D

    signature ni rah yang Cheerio :D

  17. Im in love.. matter of fact been in love for almost 10 yrs already to the same woman... luckily its getting stronger by the day... :P

  18. Love don't have many interpretations or meanings. It is just very hard to define.

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  20. i think..i love this post.. lol.

    i don't know much about love. i honestly think i'm too young to really know what love is. anyone who has not gone through the worst of the worst with their significant other can't say they know what love means. that's just my 2 cents.

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  22. Love is given. Love is the sweetest thing to have in this world, without it the flower won't bloom, the sun won't give its best light. The day won't prolong for 12 hours. Everything in this world is being managed to move by love. Our life is the representation of it. Love is life and life is love.

    So to love is to live and to live is to love ;)

  23. LOVE is the reason for everything in this wOrld...awwww... ^^

  24. i LOVE that quote by louis de bernieres too! i do believe love should be a madness.. going crazy.. just stupidly foolishly innocently purely in love. admittedly i'm a bit of an idealist and hopeless romantic..

  25. love is truly unconditional walang pinipinilng oras at panahaon.

    thanks for visit!

  26. Love is one of those things in life that you can't describe, and can never get your head round.

  27. the most lethal poison in the world is the human heart. and you're truly in love when you no longer care for the antidote. ^_^

  28. been in love many times and been hurts many times, too! Maybe, the perfect time is not yet coming my way. :)