I just wanna share this. I was talking to my 2-year-old niece Sophie on the phone a few minutes ago. She was crying. Her nanny told me that Sophie was playing with her toy, and then suddenly her playmate took it away from her. Little Sophie didn't want to share. She simply cried and shouted, "Tita Nene! Tita Nene!" (Aww, sweet! She looked for me. Hehe. Nene is my nickname, btw.) So her nanny called me up and let Sophie do that talking. Of course, I could barely understand what she's saying 'coz it was still... baby talk, still gibberish. But I just told her to stop crying and that I'd buy her a new one, but only if she shares her toy.
It got me thinking, though they are still babies, I think discipline should be in order. Boundaries should be set. I think, as early as now, Sophie should learn to share her toys with her sister and her playmates. She should also learn to give respect and follow rules. What better time to teach the kids about discipline and respect than now, right?
In our society, we are all taught to live by certain rules. "Follow the rules, no one gets hurt". Everywhere we go, there are rules and we all are obliged to follow them. That's just the way it is. It all begins inside our home. When we were little kids, our parents tried their very best to teach us what is appropriate and what is not. What should be done, what should be said and what to do and how to act during certain situations. And then, when we become parents ourselves, we will teach our kids the very same rules. It's a continuous cycle.
Simple rules like..
Don't talk when your mouth is full. It's bad manners.Don't play with your food. It's bad.Don't be a bully at school. Papa Jesus would be angry.
You get the idea. Such simple rules that we try to make the kids to understand. If they abide by these rules, they'll be given a congratulatory pat on the back.. plus ice cream! If not, then they face "detention."
When you're still a baby, not abiding by these rules is NOT a problem. The only reason is that you're a baby. But when that baby reaches the age of 5 or 6, it's a different story. With the boom of technology, almost all 6-year-olds know how to handle a computer and play online and console games such as DOTA "Defense of the Ancients - Warcraft III: Reign of Chaos and its expansion, The Frozen Throne". There are violent war games and zombie-inspired games, as well. These games.. they are pretty cool, but they have very dramatic influences on kids. The next thing you know, you'll be hearing them say things you have never imagined will come out of their little mouths.
I shot him! YES!I killed him!!! Hahaha! I totally killed him!Cool. I'm using a sniper rifle. What's your gun?WEAK!!First Blood!Triple Kill!Kill him! Kill him!Use a grenade launcher!There's a sniper! Where the hell is he? Take him out!Take cover!!!I shot him! Why is he still alive??More zombies!! Get the machine gun!!I'm shot! Medic!!We have to blow up that tower! What's the strategy?Kill him! Head shot! Head shot! HEAD SHOT!!"Get the misslie launcher.Beyond GODLIKE! Woohoo! Beat that!He killed me?!?Crap, I'm dead.
Whenever I'm around kids who play these online or console games, I'd be damn sure to hear them say at least one word from my list. I have 2 nieces, Sophie and Ysa. They're still babies. I'm not sure if they'd be interested to play games such as these. I'm kinda hoping that they wouldn't be. But if ever they would, as their Aunt, I'd be very vigilant. So when that day really comes, that I have to intervene and lay down the rules, I already have my line ready.
Sophia! Stop killing you sister or else you're done playing!!!