Friday, November 25, 2011

Guest post: Online Bullies


"Those who can, do, those who can't, bully"

In the past, those who were bullied at school or at work had the comfort of knowing that at home they would be safe and free of their tormentors. Unfortunately, the evolution of technology i.e. the creation of social networking sites means that they do not even have this small luxury anymore.

Instead, they now get bullied online as well which, I think is unbelievably cruel. I hate how social networking sites have been tainted by this despicable act. Bullies are weak and narrow-minded, usually picking on someone because they are "different" which shows just how pathetic they are.

Social networking sites were great in that they allowed people to express their individuality and share their interests. Instead, bullies use their online profiles against them. Judging and scoffing them at every chance they get which of course causes their victims to become self-conscious, depressed or even potentionally suicidal.

Like so many others out there, I was bullied when I was at school. It was tough going at school but even harder knowing that the abuse was continuing online, outside of school. People always told me to ignore it and not to go online but that was impossible because in a strange way, I HAD to know what they were saying about me. It's hard to explain but I'm sure most of you understand my reasons.

Although there are better privacy settings now on these social networking sites, it will never end the cruelty that is online bullying. Trust me, bullies will find a way round them because they are and always will be cowards.

Love,
Hazel



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“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” - Harvey S. Firestone

"Bullying consists of the least competent most aggressive employee projecting their incompetence on to the least aggressive most competent employee and winning." - Anonymous



About the Blogger:

My guest Blogger is Hazel from Pablo's Angel. She's twenty and hails from Northern Ireland making her both British and Irish. Fun Facts include: she hates sleeping with her feet covered and has a bizarre American lilt to her accent. She's a very interactive blogger in that she always replies to her comments and updates regularly. She's also a self-confessed geek who loves Harry Potter and Twilight equally. Feel free to follow her over at Pablo's Angel.

19 comments:

  1. I was bullied in school too, but I never had the internet growing up so I never had to deal with this. But I have heard some pretty bad stories. It's fine to say that the person being bullied should just stay offline, but this isn't fair. It's like punishing the child because they were being bullied, get the dicks who are hurting people offline. Or at least on another part of the web.

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  2. I'm sad that kids have to deal with this kind of stress and sometimes emotional turmoil.

    It's happening all around the world and things like this should be condemned. I personally consider e-bullying a crime.

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  3. Online bullying is very common. I think the best way to avoid these kind of bullies is to not engage with the bullying itself. Responding when provoked will just make the bully to harrass you more.

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  4. This is such an issue today particularly with the advance of technology and social networking. Now people can hide behind a private number or even create fake accounts to harass people online.

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  5. great post! it's awful that so many people take advantage of the anonymity that they can get online and use it to bully others.

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  6. nabully na din ako dito buti nalang naging spams mga comment nila...

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  7. Thanks for featuring me Leah! :)

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  8. When I was in high school I was bullied because I am small. But later, I had grown up into somebody might not be in height but in brain. Ayon lagapak ang ng bully sa akin.

    but am not pandak now ha. 5'9 ako okay. hahahahaha

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  9. I've been bullied in real life a lot up 'till a few years back. The internet was –and still is– a place of safety for me. Most people I meet there are kind, and those that aren't are easily spotted.

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  10. I find bullying disgusting. How can people do it to other people? Ugh disgusting. especially online where you act all tough behind a computer screen T_T

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  11. for me, online bullying happens to things/ persons that had a share of limelight on television. For example the famous Christopher Lao.

    Usually the bullies online are those people that doesn't think before they tweet. Specifically people who easily follow the bandwagon. If it's trending.... go with the flow attitude.

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  12. That was a great read. Really well written, Hazel!

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  13. Beautiful post Hazel, and one that I can totally relate to.

    :)

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  14. I can totally relate to this post Hazel. What you said is true. It's hard not to be online, but because of that situation I was able to take all precautions so the next time it would happen I would have at least an idea who did it. When it comes to blog, bullies will tend to leave comment anonymously but there are ways to track them.

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  15. mabubully ka pag nagpapabully ka..yun lang yon.

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  16. ive experienced bullying in a subtle way. but ive seen it happen to others in a worse way. and i think, no one wants to be bullied.

    the thing is, unless someone steps up and have a voice, nothing will happen.

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  17. huwag gawin sa iyong kapwa ang ayaw mong gawin sa iyo......

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  18. I've not yet encountered the cyber bully, but I knew a couple of real life ones in primary school. Good job Hazel.

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