"Share your thoughts about the advantages and disadvantages of being single."
When you say "single", what comes to mind?
My simple definition for this term is "someone who's not into a relationship, basically someone who's not married". Nowadays, there are just so many negative talks about being single. A person who is "single" is often viewed as someone who is alone, depressed or someone who may be desperately seeking companionship. Most especially, during the so-called "V-day" or the "Day of the Hearts", persons who are single are often percieved as lonely.
Though this is true to some, there are individuals who have willingly accepted "singlehood". There's nothing wrong with being single. Some people prefer to live with an individual frame of mind. And the need to find love really depends on the person, really. Besides, love can be found in different ways, from different origins.
So what are the advantages and disadvantages?
Being single has its perks. One could really see it plainly, if only he could set aside the prejudices, the stereotypes and negative ideas about being single.
- Freedom and independence - Being single means you have more freedom. Being single means you can be your own person. It allows you to be spontaneous. You can basically do as you please, go where you wanna go, make life decisions on your own. You don''t have to worry about a partner's reaction, because you answer to no one but yourself.
- Time - Being single means that you have your time all to yourself. You can make your own schedule. You can make time for your family, friends, career, hobbies or for pure "lakwatsa". You can make spur of the moment decisions to visit an Aunt, to watch a movie with a friend or to go shopping! All the time is yours for your personal enrichment or pleasure.
- Money - Just like "time", being single means that you have your money all to yourself. You have complete control over your spendings. Being single gives you the freedom to spend money on yourself without the guilt. You earned it, it's only reasonable that you pamper yourself a bit. Being single gives you full financial freedom. (However, being single does not mean that you should spend every penny. You still have to make responsible decisions with regards to money.)
- Annoying Habits - Everyone of us has our pet peeves.. about ourselves and about other people, as well. You don't have to worry about not getting some sleep at night because your partner snores. You don't have to clean up after your partner's mess. You won't have to wait long hours because your partner takes long showers. You won't have to fight for a blanket at night because you have the whole bed for yourself. Being single frees you from experiencing stress caused by these annoying habits. The only annoying and disgusting habits that you'd have to live with are your own.
- Becoming aware of yourself - When you're in a relationship, you tend to change yourself so that your partner would be impressed. You change the way you look, and you do things that you don't normally do. You are defined by your relationship, and in the process, you lose yourself. Being single gives you the perfect opportunity to be and develop yourself.
Of course, there are also disadvantages to being single.
- Care and comfort - No matter how brave you are, there will always be a time of weakness. And it is human nature to seek comfort from someone who really cares. Aside from family and friends, the person you'd really want to talk to is your partner or spouse. Having a partner who cares and supports you could boost your confidence. Being single means that you don't have that special someone have your back.. The kind of comfort only a partner can give.
- Loneliness - This is the worst part of being single. When you're in a relationship, you have someone who is ready to talk to you when you have problems. A shoulder to cry on, someone who listens to your stories, someone who's ready to join in your crazy activities, or someone who'd tell you "enough". Being in a relationship means you're having a bond or a connection with a someone other than yourself. Being single means you don't have that privilege.
- Celebrations and Holidays - During special occasions, it really feels very good to celebrate them with other people. And there's nothing worse than celebrating the holidays alone. Of course, you could spend them with family and friends. Still, spending time with a special someone seems better.
- Children - If you're still in your teen's or twenty's, this one doesn't really count. But when you're in your thirty's and still single, you'd start to feel that huge hole in your heart. Every time you see moments between a parent and a child, you'd feel envious. This feeling is a real disadvantage of being single. For kids, their parents are the two most beautiful people in the world, and there's no better feeling than that.
- Sex - Of course, when you're single, there would be no physical sexual contact. Unless you decide to get intimate with random strangers (which I do NOT advice), if you're a female, your only companion in your big bed, every single night is your pillow or a stuffed teddy bear. You won't have someone to cuddle with. And that can be really lonely. Well, if you're a male, I'm sure you can think of a lot of ideas to.. hmmm.. you get the idea. (Shutting up now.)
To end this post...
The disadvantage? You won't have children. Aside from having your family, you'd probably wind up alone and somewhat lonely. lol..
The advantage? Well, you could always line up to catch the bouquet on someone's wedding. LOL.
Do you have something to add to my list? What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of being single?