Showing posts with label PREJUDICE.. Show all posts
Showing posts with label PREJUDICE.. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Judge Me. Don't Judge Me. Whatever.



Isn't judging just human nature? What do YOU think? The below quotes resonate so deeply in me.

"You shouldn't be ashamed of judging people, it is both normal, necessary, and useful provided that they are appropriate. I judge people all of the time. I'm judging you now. I am determining who is good or bad, intelligent, possessing of good taste, attractive, interesting, social pariah, etc. I think it important, though, to readjust judgment according to new information. And you're judging me now too." - Keresth D'Araciel

"We all judge. Those that say they don't are full of $%^#. They may accept someone that others don't but they still judged to make that acceptance. People who claim not to be judgmental are lying to everyone especially themselves. I judge where everyone judges from. It stems from my own moral compass, past experience, prejudices, facts or lack thereof, the society I live in, the law, and yes emotion." - Stephen Smith

I've also quoted Walt Whitman before as well: "Be curious, not judgmental."


I believe in ALL of these powerful words! Why do so many judgmental people equate judging with something negative, derogatory, immoral or wrong? Hell, I judge myself all the time. Perhaps some of us perceive the word in different ways?

I can see where in some cases curiosity trumps judgement whereas in other situations judgement is perfectly normal and natural even though we may not be conscious that we're doing it; we are, in my opinion. Naturally, we don't enjoy being judged, but we have no problem doing it ourselves: See Hypocrisy.

Like Stephen Smith implied, I just think some people are full of themselves and need a platform to be self-congratulatory while smugly looking down on others preaching of being non-judgmental all the while being well, ....judgmental.

Humility > self-righteousness.

We cannot please everyone. Not everyone can possibly like us. I cannot like everyone, and if I don't like you, I probably judged you negatively by your actions that rubbed me the wrong way or how you articulated yourself. And if I like you, I judged you positively due to your behavior toward others and myself. I think we all are similarly hard-wired. If not, we wouldn't be alive, I'd think.

Some people judge over super-duper ridiculous things such as the kind of music you listen to. They're not being as judgmental as they are being superficial and anti-social.

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I think that everyone passes judgement. I judge myself everyday. People judge me everyday. I judge people everyday.. by the way they talk, the way they act. But as much as we want to judge people by their behavior and actions, most of the time, we allow appearances to cloud our judgment. Sometimes, we can't help but belittle others as inferior.

Having this right to judge, one still needs decorum and manners. I can't just walk to the person and say "Your outfit sucks!". Yeah, so I'm judging him to be one with very poor fashion sense. It's uncool and superficial but hey, at least I'm not being a hypocrite about it. I just try to be mature about it and tell him without really hurting his feelings or making him feel inferior... or better yet, I don't talk at all.

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You're judging me right now, aren't you? Oh, gosh.


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Sunday, December 11, 2011

Guest Post: Sex


MALICE in Wonderland


I would like to talk to you about sex.

Now, if this is a gallery packed with people with me as the speaker, I’ll probably get oohhs and ahhhs at the mere mention of such frivolous three letter word. Others might give me boos while others will surely choose to leave. And then the people who remain pinned down in their seats will be called perverts and me, their gang leader.

But I’m no sex guru, and by the age of twenty four I hardly got any experience as much as a five year old kid. I’m not even here to talk about the thousand positions the combined Kama Sutra and online websites compiled for the pleasure of couples, even groups. I’m here to ask you, what are the first things that come in your mind by the mere mention of the word sex?

Throughout the course of this millennia, sex has been branded as the devil, the harlot in full red flowing sinful silk, tempting the good and the kind. Sex has been blamed for people's many mischief and deluge of horrors. Last, there was an article here I read which blamed it for marriage's doom. Sex is also blamed for people's sickness. Sex is the cause of early teen pregnancies. Sex is why there are so many gays nowadays. Sex is vile. Sex is corrupt and that sex equates to the devil's fork, sticking in anybody's ass turning everybody sluts and whores.

What most people don't realise is that they're blaming a three letter word thing that doesn't even think for itself. People are forgetting it is our mind, chief among anything, which decides for our person. We think for ourselves therefore we decide for ourselves. We do sex according to our mind play. It is just the mere act, to succumb to its enticing power, to delight in its promised pleasure, the task lies in our hands. The virtue of decision is ours and therefore, whatever end it might brought, we imposed that to ourselves and not sex.